Category: Dating and Relationships
Hello all!
Ok, I'm not exactly sure on what to get my boyfriend for Christmas. (We're pretty serious but not engaged he's met my family I'm going to meet his in a month or so) I think possibly a braille watch (see my post on the garage sale board..) but I'm honestly not sure. I'm not sure how much to spend. For the first time, in a long time, money isn't really an issue for me (but I don't want it to become one!)
I realize this is really really vague. I just want something he'd be totally surprised and go, "wow!" Or think, "that's really thoughtful and nice."
Some facts about us...or him lol!
He's got a guide dog a black lab.
He shops at masies (Thought of getting him something from there but not sure what..)
It is our 1st Christmas together though we've known each other for years but have never really gotten each other anything before. I thought about a gift certifikit but wasn't sure if that was lame. Any ideas? Any questions please ask.
Oops. darn. I didnt' see this board post before I responded to the one about the watch. I supposed my rambling gift guide would be more appropriate for this thread. lol
But here's a suggestion:
You want to show your boyfriend you care about him, show him you care about his dog. In addition to getting something for him, throw a bone to the friendly lab. In otherwords, get the pooch something too.
Does he like kongs? Busy bones? nyla bones? a favorite treat? that'll delight the pup and surprise the beau.
trust me, if a guy knows you love his dog, he knows you're a keeper. lol. Unless he's a jerk. But a, I doubt he's a jerk if you're dating him, and b, I doubt you'd want to get a jerk a gift. lol. Seriously though, if money's not tight right now and you really want to woo him, go for the watch. It's practical, it's classy, it's an investment in the time you spend together..Get it? hahaha.
If you want to be more thoughtful, it's ok to get a cheaper gift from the heart.
Just don't be stingy... And don't be cheap for the sake of being cheap. No matter how entertaining the show Extreme Cheap Skates is, No one really wants to date a cheap skate. lol.
Didn't you post a board like this last year, or on another guy.
Socks.
Don't laugh. Good warm socks are always handy.
I'd have to know him to suggest other stuff, but socks is one thing.
if you don't think so hard about the nicest gift, you might discover the perfect gift, just by getting him stuff he needs, like socks, for example, as Wayne suggested.
Socks? Lame. lol. Sorry guys; so anticlimactic. And climaxes are important in a relationship, oh yes they are. hahaa.
no, not meaningless at all; at least you'd both be satisfied knowing that socks are something that would go to good use. whereas, if you bought him something random, there's no guarantee that he'd like it or use it.
Or, he'd be underwhelmed for getting something so bland. Come on. You give socks to your mom or dad... or to the husband you're about to divorce. lol.
If one is dating someone, I think they can muster something better than socks. Socks are useful to everyone; that's precisely why they're a lame gift. there's no forethought there. No attempt to make the gift unique, to tailor it to the person's likes and dislikes.
If someone I'm dating gives me socks, it sends the message: ok, so a, you either didnt' bother to get to know me well enough yet to get me something that would captivate me or evoke emotions, or b, you're too boring and a crappy gift giver. Neither of which would make me leap forth with joy at the prospect of continuing to date that person.
Nope, sorry. Socks are just as boring as ties. they're the worst gift you can get someone; except maybe boxers or deodorant. lol.
Ah so what about the herbal foot warmers then? I was most grateful for those one Christmas, a year when most of my work involved being on my feet and generally running around inside and outside, unlike what I do now sitting on my pale fat middle-aged white ass lol.
Seriously: this sort of comparative analysis of gift giving can be pretty revolting.
I'd say a nice pair of warm socks that don't itch, or a nice pair of house slippers, or hell, the Wife got me a soft somewhat furry robe one year and I've used the fuck out of it for 10 years plus. There are socks, and then there are socks. Seriously, I bought Her some fuzzy socks with a schmanzy fancy name and I couldn't tell you what that name is. But they're fuzzy in a non-itchy, soft downy way that kept Her feet warm. I wouldn't want those particular ones, but I've gotten others from Her that were absolutely warm and nice.
There's the "Oh I'll get you clothes because you're such a fashion douche I'll dress you," kind of insult, or "I got that scrap from WalMart here you go," kind of insult, and then there are things like, ... that flannel shirt She got me last year which I will use for many years to come, or the leather jacket I've had for close on 8 years now.
Just because they say socks doesn't mean tube socks, though stop dissing the tubes I saw you, they're nice and comfy! lol.
Anyway, sorry Bernadetta, your posts here are kind of reminding of me and my friends when we were young and dumb teasing 'old' people who took to some of the more simplistic types of things for dates, like actually going to the store together and getting a coffee or an ice cream afterwards, without the kids, without having to deal with bills and stuff, and with being spontaneous, something you can't do for your weekend get-aways. The spontaneous part, I mean.
I'm always on the lookout for things for Her like lower back pillows, arm rest pillows, simple stuff that makes Her life easier after a rather physically demanding job for anyone but especially someone who deals with the types of joint issues that She does.
See, and Leo's a guy too. Smile.
Socks. A girl thinks about me and finds me some good warm socks that fit well, I'll makes sure she has some climaxes.
And lets not talk about great flannel shirts. I've got a couple, just got one from L.L Bean, and I'll tell you, it's a great shirt.
It not only fits well, is really soft, but washes up just beautifully, and as Leo said, I'll probably have it 10 years.
A Girl gives me something like that, everytime I put it on I think about her.
I don't know this guy personally, and that is why I said as I did.
Another thing. Take me out, give me some of your time. Treat me to a good beer even if you think beer is absolutely the worst drink in the land. Beer, is what I like, and you coming with me, buying me a good brewer brusky,and a steak or real burger, and sitting with me enjoying time with me, will also get you some more climaxes.
Sorry, girl, but how much it cost just doesn't move me, especially if we've only been dating a short time, and she doesn't really know me well. I'd just appreciate her thinking about me and my conforts over trying to break the bank and as Leo said, buying me something I'll say thanks for, but never use.
Oh, and I don't wear boxers. She'll know that if we've been, sharing, climaxes.
You know, I was dating a girl, and we'd been only dating a short time.
She had this great sweater, that was nitted, not store made.
It was large for her. I admired it, because it was just the best sweater.
She gave it to me as a gift. Kept the thing and thought about her even after we stopped dating for years.
I've got things like that now women have given me that were personal.
I've got a great coffee mug for Val day I use around that time of year.
A really large beer mug. I think it can hold 3 cans of beer.
I've got a blanket, or and yes, some great socks too.
I'm serious.
Wayne's right, every time you put something on that She gave you, it's like She's sort of wrapped on you, if that makes sense. Even if her scent's gone or not on it, it's true. Put on a shirt, socks, or anything that she gave you and that is how it feels, forever.
Oh, and on socks once more defending my gift.
The type I’m talking about might cost 20 30 a pair if you don’t know where to shop for them.
So 3 pair of say, Darn Touch with full padding, could run you 60 bucks.
I’ve got some Smart Wool, Columbian Sportswear, Wigwam, also, to name a few, and these are wonderful feeling. Especially for a guy that walks lots, or has to be out in the cold or heat.
The for mentioned boxers are great too, and I don’t mean Walmart packaged.
Quality 100% cotton, or silk too in my case, make a body feel good.
You get a dude 4 pairs and you’ll spend 50 bucks easy, or more.
Gloves, a good hat.
You said this guy’s blind, so I’ll bet he’s out in the cold walking or waiting on a bus. Good hats that keeps his head warm, but allows him to hear, is like gold and diamonds.
Go to a sporting good store for what I’m talking about, or look online, provided you agree.
Okay, I’ll quit. Lol
Gentlemen, gentlemen gentlemen. You totally misconstrued my point. Or else I misconstrued your point about socks.
the kind of thing your talking about, leo, is perfectly acceptible. Hell, I'd love a pair of herbal foot warmers for the winter, why not. I've gotten those fuzzy monkey-face foot-slippers from a boyfriend before and i love them. They are combination socks and slippers, so on blistering cold days like these, I snuggle up on the couch in my nice warm goofy monkey socks and I watch a Christmas movie and I smile.
Because monkeys are cute and the socks are warm and I'm happy.
What I had pictured in my mind when you guys said socks was those cheapo wal mart buy three pairs for ten bucks socks. You know, the ones that are utilitarian.
What you described, leo and wane, are thoughtful gifts.
I'm not talking about price tags and showing off. I'm talking thoughtfulness and creativity. I'm talking individualized gift-giving.
Arm rests and back pillows leo? Why the hell not, since you know your lady works hard and can specifically use them. That's personal. It shows some forethought.
not just, plain old socks. From the clarence bin at Big Lots. lol.
Yeah, monkey socks. Lol. Sweet gifts.
I personally don't give a flying flip if the gifts I am given are from Wal-Mart, or another place that some people might think of as cheap.
if the person in question knows me well, and I know them well, it's the thought that counts, period.
for example, I got a shower head as a late birthday present; I didn't jump for joy at receiving it, nor did I grumble that someone got me a "freakin' showerhead," or whatever.
I knew the intent behind the gift, which is enough for me to appreciate the gift as a whole; plus, I know that, with more experimentation, I'll enjoy the showerhead if for no other reason than the fact that using it gives me a good arm workout.
as leo said himself, he has gotten his wife things like that cause he knew she could use the exercise for help with her joints, and believe it or not, that sort of thing is priceless, at least to some of us.
it saddens me to know that some people value a damn price tag over the thought that goes into gift giving, but I'm glad that leo and Wayne see where I'm coming from.
oh, and, I kid you not, I also got socks as a birthday present, the kind with the things on them that make it so that people wearing them don't slip.
while that may be considered by some people to be a cheap gift that took no thought whatsoever, I personally love them to pieces.
We used WalMart as a means of these bargain packages of socks.
I don't mean WalMart or things that come from there are not quality or worthy gifts.
WalMart has some really nice items, price not included.
And, yes, something that is useful is the best for first gift giving.
I noticed on another
board she's looking for a braille watch. Because most of us carry cellphones, I wonder how useful that will be? Will he remember to put it on even?
It's truly a nice gift, but you understand what I mean. A braille watch would be one of these things you say thanks for, but might put it on your dresser until you dress to go out.
Before everyone carried a phone, a watch was useful, but now, I'd not be so sure.
My ideal box would contain a couple pairs of these great socks, a flannel shirt, and a gift card to a local brewery, or Starbucks for the non drinking man.
A girl give me something like that for our first Christmas, I'd think she were tops, and follow her around all day.
Smile.
Those Colombia fleece jackets are really nice and a bottle of cologne. As another post said, don't forget the dog!
Llh. She could be my hero! Lol